A question I’ve been getting a lot lately is, “Do you have a boyfriend?” No. And the follow-up, “Why not?” Obviously, the right person hasn’t come along.
This is my least favorite conversation to have. Especially at this point in my life. This is when I’m supposed to be getting to know me and what makes me happy. How can I ever figure out who complements me if I don’t even know who I am? So if you ever think about discussing someone’s relationship status, please don’t ask why they are in a certain situation. It’s insulting and redundant.
I know people say relationships are hard, but I believe being single is the real struggle in this day and age. We have all of these social media networks shoving companionship down our throats. Man Crush Monday. Woman Crush Wednesday. #RelationshipGoals. It’s particularly difficult to focus on yourself when people appear to be so happy with a significant other. But it is important for us singles to realize the key word I mentioned: appear.
Instagram is the first app to come to mind. The whole point is to get likes, or attention. So of course, people are going to go out of their way to write paragraph-long captions about how their relationship is special and different from others. I know how hard it is to read these posts and think, “Wow, I want that.” We never stop to think that this is just a snapshot of their partnership. And Instagram is about capturing the moment in a photo, not a lifetime.
Don’t let something as silly as a picture bum you out about your love life. Someone is out there for you. You just have to be patient. And why not work on improving yourself while you wait? It’s a great distraction ;)