Anyone who knows me understands how important my parents are to me. They are literally my best friends. I know that we have a special relationship; what college kid would voluntarily go out to dinner with their parents on a Friday night? This kid. They are my biggest inspiration in life. I strive to be warm hearted like my mom, and hard working like my dad. Pretty much everything they say to me is taken to heart and guides me through life. I hope that these recent words of wisdom from my dad can help you as they did for me.
One day while we were watching TV at home, my dad decided to share the three things that he thinks are important for someone to be successful. This is how I interpreted them…
This seems like a simple concept, but it is extremely useful. I never realized how much of life is just remembering. Think about little things like doing laundry. It’s tedious, but it needs to be done, right? Now imagine doing that same task not having it committed to memory. You’d have to call someone and get directions every time you need to wash clothes. Even more tedious.
Being in college is definitely a game of memory. Remembering which professors are tougher than others. Remembering when assignments are due. Remembering how many unexcused absences you’ve used up. Well, I am about to share my biggest secret with you. I make As and Bs in school, but that doesn’t necessarily make me a genius. It’s my memory. I’m the one students love to hate because I can stare at my notes the day before (or the day of) the exam and make a passing grade. I don’t have extraordinary capabilities. Anyone can remember, remember? You can wash clothes, you can remember!
Memory is so important. You don’t want to have to ask someone to remind you of things your whole life. Knowing yourself saves so much time. Remembering little things can help you move on to big stuff at a quicker rate than others.
– Instead of playing games like Angry Birds or Candy Crush, download a brain training app like Lumosity.
– Write in blue ink.
– When studying, chew gum. When you take the exam chew another piece of that same gum.
2) Outgoing Personality
This is one of the areas I’m failing in terribly. I am so awkward when it comes to human interaction, but I’m working on it. I’m not really good at meeting new people unless the other person talks first and leads the conversation. Sometimes I think this may have something to do with the fact that I’m an introvert. But I don’t want to use this as an excuse anymore. Practice makes perfect, right?
To be outgoing is to be confident. All you have to do is believe that you can be these things. I know it sounds lame, but it’s true. Talk about things you know a lot about. Find out what the other person is interested in and ask questions about it. This may seem weird, but… study someone you know who is outgoing. When you find yourself in an awkward social situation, imitate that person. What would they do? How would they react? An introvert like me can be outgoing with the right tools. Watch this TedTalk:
An outgoing personality is useful in everyday life, not just something that comes in handy at a party. It can help you with a number of things. Voicing your opinions. Networking. Persuasion. Just think. If you want to take that next big step in your career, who will your boss remember? The quiet employee who clocks in and clocks out, or the confident employee who makes suggestions and shows passion for their job?
– Fake it til you become it (Amy Cuddy).
3) A Little Bit Of Crazy
First of all, let’s define crazy. I don’t mean the mentally deranged crazy, but the extremely enthusiastic crazy. When my dad threw out this last key to success, I laughed. Now that I’ve thought about it, it makes so much sense.
Think about something you’re really interested in. Maybe a hobby, like dance. You know every little thing there is to know about dance. You find some way to relate everything to dance. Most of your friends were made through this activity. You practice to improve your skills. You watch it on TV and YouTube. You read about it to try and expand your already extensive knowledge. This is crazy. Do you get offended when someone tells you that dance is just a hobby? This is passion. Dance is what makes you happy.
An important part of crazy is having reasons to be enthusiastic. The only thing I know about you is that you’re reading this post and I can give you two things to be enthused about right now: 1) You’re alive and 2) You can read. These are simple, but monumental reasons to be excited daily. Build from this list.
Just be happy! Happiness is contagious. You could turn someone’s day around, or maybe even their life.
– Explore. Find out what makes you happy.
– Plan things that you can look forward to.
– Get rid of things that don’t make you happy.
So remember to find what makes you happy, and talk about it.